Prelude- It`s Monday morning. You need to visit the "sports fan", and you need something to say to open up that conversation. Typically, that small talk topic will come right from the sports highlight of the past weekend. But, what happens when there isn't a highlight? Let's take this weekend for example.
CFL playoffs happened, but unless you bump into someone from Saskatchewan, well, there really isn't anything to make small talk about. How about the Leafs beating the Sens? Yeah but the game
wasn't special, and it really is you win some you lose some. One regular season game does not a season make. What about the Patriots absolutely manhandling one of two possible teams that might stand a chance at beating them. Perhaps. But honestly, nothing of significance happened this weekend. So, what we need is a `break glass in case of emergency` quote. A simple to use opening line to use on your sports fan.
Sport - Emergency Sport Topic
Event - You need to talk sports but nothing happened on the weekend to talk about.
IssueA sports fan will always be ready to talk about 'their' team. But does that really make for good conversation? For example, my team, the Leafs, beats the Sens, but talking about that this Monday will simply unearth tired sport cliches. A good sport conversation focuses on an event that crosses the boundary of that sport and let's sports fans talk about the ramifications. Everyone in sport has an opinion because everyone is a coach. For example, the last blog discussed an athlete taking liberties with the rules of the game thereby allowing us to discuss the ramification (hall of fame worthy?) or social perspective (what kind of message is that sending my kid?).
So what we need today are some questions that allow the door to open on topics that only need visiting when there truly is nothing fitting the above criteria. That is the case this weekend, so today, try these on...
Point(s) to say - Follow up point(s)
"What game did you watch this weekend? - "Are you fan of one of those teams?"
"Have you gone to any ______ games so far this year?" e.g. hockey, football - "How often do you get to games in a year?"
Best one (but be ready to really try hard at caring) "How's your son' hockey team doing?" - "What position does he play?"
"Are you in hockey pool?" - "How's that going?"
BackgrounderUnfortunately, our "emergency only" quotes take you down the path of the sport fan talking about himself. However, that is in fact, the saving grace of small talk. When given the chance, who
doesn't like to talk about themselves? For a guy, nothing is safer then talking about himself and sports at the same time. The trick for the casual sports fan is to minimize the length of the small talk conversation out of your own self preservation. Otherwise you are in for a long ride about how the ref sucks and if that penalty
wasn't called his kid would have scored.
So, best bet is the hockey pool talk. The conversation will typically be a short one because once 1) placement is established, 2) excuse for poor showing explained, and 3) strategy to get back in it is covered, and then, voila, conversation is complete and you are ready to talk about the subject necessitating why you really showed up in the first place.
Remember casual sports fans, your role is to open the door to a sport conversation that gets your recipient to let loose with the sport talk. Once done, you can move on, confident that they think you'
ve had a worthwhile sport related conversation. All the best, and I'll catch you again, once I see something of interest pop up on the highlights.
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